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Exs aren’t bad guys

One thing that can be difficult when you’re in a relationship is if, for whatever reason, you have to face your partner’s ex. Or, for that matter, your ex’s new partner.
I am quite good friends with my ex-boyfriend, we still have some of the same friends and I see him most days at college, but i know my new boyfriend finds it quite awkward to be around him, and my ex and I have never directly acknowledged to each other that either of us are seeing someone new. I do know, however, that he’s on the verge of getting together with someone. This felt a bit weird at first, although I am over him I guess it’s inevitable that you’re not exactly going to enjoy seeing someone you used to be with with someone else. But actually one of my biggest worries is that his new girlfriend (if he ever actually asks her to be that) will find it awkward to be near me. I barely know her, but what I do know I like, and I wouldn’t want her to feel she couldn’t become better friends with me just because she’s with my ex-boyfriend.
However, something happened today which got me feeling a lot more optimistic about the whole awkward-relationship-permutations problem. I was walking down the road near my college, and I saw two of my friends with a girl whose boyfriend I stole. Ok, it’s not actually as bad as it sounds, she’d sort of stolen him off me first, and none of us ever did anything wrong, but it would be fair enough for the two of us to hate each other. I don’t actually know her, but I knew who she was and I’m pretty sure she knows who I am. As I went past them I smiled at my friends, aiming it at her too, and got a very warm smile back from her. It’s a little thing, but it really made me happy.
So yeah, I guess I’m just saying…don’t judge people on past relationships etc….? I don’t really know what my point is, but hope you enjoyed the ramblings nonetheless.